Friday, February 19, 2010
I am a little disappointed! I was mentioned by a staff to another participant and I'm a bit sad about it. I should not be being used as an example of what a staff person hopes another participant wont be like or do. I want to make it perfectly clear that my wanting to leave (nothing has been decided) does not at all mean I wont be successful. Yes it wil be harder because I wont have all the wonderful support the family place offers. I stil intend to get my high school diploma. I am just trying to work a few personal things out right now and I am diving in head first this week with buckling down and getting that done. I have made some HUGE steps in the right direction. You all know how I feel about daycare but I have called 2 local daycares and set up appointments to visit them this coming wednsday. I wish that the steps I am making to be independant would be noticed as posotive things not me "quiting" or "giving up". Thats not at all what Im doing! I also was really against me getting a job. I just wanted my husband to do it so I could stay home with my princess until she went to school. I know want a job and Have been filling out online applications. I also have made a doctors appointment for myself for next friday and self care was not high on my list but now I am taking care of that. In my search to find a job I am also going to see if I could still go to flt one day a week if not 2. I enjoy the staff and the friends I have made there. I just want to be on my own. I dont want to need people or government fnds anymore. I feel like I am failing and I am trying to achieve things. So to the staff please dont tell other participants that you hope they arent gonna just quit like me because Im not quiting!!!! I just dont want to need you! I am an adult and I should be able to support my family and get my life together without help and getting a job is a good start. Realize that I am making steps and no my case manager doesnt know about my steps. She doesnt need to root herself in every aspect of my life especially my daughters. I think flt is such an amazing program and I recommend it to any young mother who needs some help navigating. Ok I've said what I needed too. Have a great day!
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I'm so sorry you felt singled out as a "bad example." While I don't know what was said, my guess is that the person who said it didn't intend it to be critical of you or your choices. I'd encourage you to talk to that staff person to sort it out. (Yea, I know, what a typical counselor thing to say, huh?)
It's not our place as staff to judge the reasons people have for choosing to leave the program. We know that there are times that FLT is just not a good "fit" in someone's life. At the same time, we also know that FLT asks you to make lots of changes in your life and that can be scary and hard -- so we do try to encourage people to stay with the program if there are still components that can help you work toward your goals. There is often great value in working through things that are hard and scary -- but ultimately, each participant must decide for herself whether FLT is a still a good fit and whether the suports we offer can be helpful or whether it's time to try it on your own. We would miss you if you chose to leave.
It sounds like you've had a VERY productive week. I'm really proud of you for scheduling appointments with childcare providers and with the doctor. I know both of those are things that have been a little scary for you and things you've really struggled to decide whether you wanted. And kudos on the job search, too.
It's hard to be in a position where you need help. I think that's true for most people (even me!). You are a strong and capable young woman, and I understand your desire to be on your own and not need us (or the state) anymore. In fact, our ultimate goal with FLT is that you won't need us -- that we'll provide a good support system to help you develop your own skills and build your own support network so that you can "go it alone" (although we hope you'll keep in touch even if you don't need us anymore -- it's kind of like being parents: We want you to be able to go out in the world and make it on your own, but we hope you call and visit every now and then.)
good job you have done alot..... if you leave i will miss ya and hope you can stay in touch with me... your kids are all good looking not just the babe she is some thing special in many ways just like your other two.... good luck on all ....
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